Hope By The Sea's Family Program

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Scheduled Dates for 2014
Jan 17, 18 & 19 May 16, 17 & 18 Sep 19, 20 & 21
Feb 21, 22 & 23 Jun 20, 21 & 22 Oct 17, 18 & 19
Mar 21, 22 & 23 Jul 18, 19 & 20 Nov 21, 22 & 23
Apr 11, 12 & 13 Aug 15, 16 & 17 Dec 19, 20 & 21

 

At Hope By The Sea's California drug rehab, it is our belief that drug and alcohol addiction affects families as a whole.  Successful healing and recovery requires more than just treatment and education for the addicted individual.  Research and experience tell us that family involvement in recovery is imperative to understand the complexities of addiction. Our intensive three-day Family Program focuses on educating, empowering and supporting families who want to be best prepared to help their loved one to be successful in their recovery.   Our approach to recovery is action and solution-oriented.
 
Families come to Hope By The Sea wanting to know how they can “fix” their loved one.  Families need to realize that while they are powerless over their loved one’s substance abuse and behavior and cannot change it, they can change themselves.  We encourage family members to find a solution for themselves and begin their own recovery.  By taking care of ‘self’ they become the best aid in the recovery of both their loved one and themselves.

 

There are times when the addicted person refuses to participate in any treatment program.  Even in this situation, families are encouraged to attend Family Program to embrace their own healing and recovery needs.  It is not unusual for the family to seek help first, and for their loved one to follow.

 

When addiction is involved, it becomes impossible to maintain a healthy, functioning family system.  Family members are affected physically, mentally, emotionally, socially and spiritually.  As the destructive progression of the disease progresses, many family members become so focused on their loved one that they lose the ability to take care of themselves.

 

Physically, you may suffer from stress-related illnesses.  You may not be eating well, sleeping well or exercising.

 

Mentally, you can become obsessed, preoccupied and forgetful.  You may have a hard time concentrating because of worry and racing thoughts.  You can also develop mental defenses similar to the addict or alcoholic, such as denial and minimization.

 

Emotionally, you may be anxious, fearful, depressed, lonely, angry and overwhelmed, but the common way for dealing with these feelings is to bury them.  Burying feelings can result in physical problems and overreacting to minor incidents because of a buildup of unresolved tension.

 

Socially, you might withdraw and become isolated, ceasing to participate in activities and hobbies that were once enjoyable.  You can become disconnected from yourself, others and life.

 

Spiritually, you might find yourself violating your values to protect the addict or alcoholic and over time begin to lose faith, hope and a purpose for living.

 

The goals of our Family Program are to:

 

The format of our program consists of multiple families in a group setting.  This type of group allows participants to be able to share openly with each other without the typical emotional reactions and conflict which often occur within a chemically dependent family system.  As a result, participants are able to gain deeper awareness and understanding of each other.  Each participant shares at the level he or she feels comfortable.  By sharing their feelings and experiences, participants form meaningful connections with one another and begin to realize they are not alone. 

 

Family members receive information about the process of recovery embodied in the 12 Steps of Al-Anon.  As a way to prepare for Family Program, we encourage you to attend Al-Anon meetings and learn how those steps provide a path for personal recovery.  At these meetings, members share their experience, strength and hope with others who have similar difficulties.  Support and often-times lifelong friendships are forged during these critical passages in a family’s struggle with addiction.

 

We realize the road to recovery is fragile, but with support, patience and an open heart, great strides can be made in a short period of time.  We invite you to visit our facility, feel the serene and friendly environment, and get to know our staff and treatment plans.  We are here to help you.  To learn more about our Family Program or to register, please call 866.930.HOPE (4673). 

 

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Participation
Our program is extended to anyone who has a loved one in active addiction or recovery.  Having a loved one in treatment at Hope By The Sea is not a requirement for participation.  Our program is best suited to persons aged 13 and older, including but not limited to a spouse, partner, parents, children, siblings, other relatives and close friends.

 

Schedule
Family Program is a three-day weekend program and is offered once a month.  The program begins at 10:30am on Friday and concludes at 5:00pm on Sunday.  Participants are expected to attend all three days.  The program is sequential in nature and each session builds on the material covered in the previous session.

 

Cost
The cost is $500 per family (up to 3 participants) and each additional participant is $150.  Space is limited, so advanced pre-paid registration is required.  We accept cash, checks and credit cards.  Full payment is due a minimum of 10 days prior to the program date.  Cancellations received less than 10 days in advance are non-refundable; however you may reschedule for another program date.  Questions and other financial arrangements can be discussed with Penny Carlsen, Administrator, at 866.930.HOPE (4673) or penny@hopebythesea.com

 

Confidentiality
This is a confidential program.  Who you see and what is said of a personal nature is information that is not to be revealed to anyone.  An atmosphere of trust is crucial to allow participants to begin to open up and gain the emotional support of their peers.  If you learn something that is going to enhance your living, we encourage you to share this information with others.


Accommodations
For your convenience, Hope By The Sea has partnered with the following hotels.  Some of these hotels will offer discount rates when you mention Hope By The Sea when making your reservation.

 

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Hotel Accommodations

 

Doubletree Suites By Hilton
Reserve Online: Click here to make reservation
Reserve by phone use Client ID # 0002772379
34402 Pacific Coast Highway
Dana Point, CA  92629
949.661.1100

 

Best Western Capistrano Inn
27174 Ortega Highway
San Juan Capistrano, CA  92675
949.493.5661

 

Fairfield Inn
26328 Oso Parkway
Mission Viejo, CA  92691
949.582.7100

 

Laguna Cliffs Marriott Resort & Spa (No discount is available)
25135 Park Lantern
Dana Point, CA  92629
949.661.5000

 

Residence Inn San Juan Capistrano (No discount is available)
33711 Camino Capistrano
San Juan Capistrano, CA 92675
(949) 443-3600

 

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Hope By The Sea Family Program Weekend Schedule

 

Friday

Time

Topic

Presenter(s)

Location

10:30 – 10:45am

Registration

Brian

Downstairs

10:45 – 11:45am

Introductions

Staff & Participants

Downstairs

11:45am – 12:30pm

Lunch (provided)

Downstairs

12:30 – 1:30pm

Disease of Addiction

Cyndie

Upstairs

1:30 – 1:45pm

Break

 

 

1:45 – 2:45pm Disease of Addiction (Continued) Cyndie Upstairs
2:45 - 3:00pm Break

3:00 – 4:45pm

Family Systems & Roles

Amanda

Upstairs

4:45 – 5:00pm

Closing / Journal

Amanda

Upstairs

 

Saturday

Time

Topic

Presenter(s)

Location

8:00 – 9:15am

Communication

Cyndie

Upstairs

9:15 – 9:30am

Break

9:30 – 10:30am

Addiction Story

TBD

Upstairs

10:30 – 10:45am

Break

 

 

10:45 – 11:45am

Addiction Story (continued)

TBD

Upstairs

11:45am – 12:45pm

Lunch (provided)

1:00 – 1:30pm

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Cyndie

Upstairs

1:30 – 1:45pm

Break

 

 

1:45 – 3:00pm

Family / Client Process

Cyndie

Upstairs

3:00 – 3:15pm

Break

 

 

3:15 - 4:45pm Family / Client Process (Continued) Cyndie Upstairs

4:45 – 5:00pm

Closing / Journal

Cyndie

Upstairs

 

Sunday

Time

Topic

Presenter(s)

Location

8:00 – 9:30am

Codependency

Dr Stafford

Upstairs

9:30 - 9:45am Break    

9:45 – 10:30am

Grief & Learning To Let Go

Dr Stafford

Upstairs

10:30 – 10:45am

Break

 

 

10:45 – 11:30am

12 Steps / Al-Anon

Kelly & Cyndie

Upstairs

11:30am – 12:30pm

Lunch (on your own)

 

 

12:45 – 1:45pm

Forgiveness

Cyndie

Upstairs

1:45 – 2:00pm

Break

 

 

2:00 - 3:00pm Forgiveness (continued) Cyndie Upstairs

3:00 – 3:15pm

Break

 

 

3:15 – 4:15pm

Recovery & Relapse

Aaron

Upstairs

4:15 – 5:00pm

Journal, Evaluation & Conclusion

Staff

Upstairs

 

 

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