“You can pick up any book and learn addiction is not just the user’s problem, that it’s a family problem. We found ourselves addicted to our son’s addiction, trying to manage every aspect of his life from helping him get up in the morning, to paying his bills, and everything you could think of in between. Without even realizing it, his addiction was taking a toll on every aspect of our lives as well.
My wife and I lay awake night after night worrying about where he was and waiting for a dreaded phone call. We begged him to get help…. yelling, screaming and demanding. You’d think I would know better how to handle the situation being a recovering addict myself. I have to admit it was easier to seek my own help and work a program, than to see my son deal with the devastation that had become his life.
Hope By The Sea’s Family Program is an absolute must for anyone desiring to fully understand the depth of the disease of addiction and how you can best equip your family to support your loved one. Often the case, what you think is the right thing to do is not the best thing for the addict’s recovery program. The Family Program guided us through that amazing realization, that each person is responsible for their own journey and as much as we want to, we can’t manage that journey.
Since experiencing that amazing weekend, my wife and I have been consistently practicing what we learned, including finding a home Al-Anon meeting that we attend weekly. Our son is thrilled we’re working our own programs, and I can’t emphasize that enough. He’s had several challenges throughout his 90 days of treatment, but for every challenge he’s faced, we’ve learned to listen and turn the challenge back to him to ultimately resolve. We are now working a healthy program of recovery and have begun to heal. We can only thank the Hope By The Sea Family Program for providing those guidelines.
We’d like to thank everyone at Hope: Penny, Ernie, Kelly, Cyndie, Nicole, Bryan, Dr Q, Dr Stafford, Frank, Karin, George, Jose, Pete, Candy and all of the house managers (we love you). I’m sure I’ve left some people off this list… just know we love you all. A special shout out to all the family members that we participated with in the program as well. And last but not least, to all the clients at Hope, you made the weekend amazing and you will always be in our thoughts and prayers.”