Self Test For Family Members
At Hope By The Sea’s California drug rehab, it is our belief that drug and alcohol addiction affects families as a whole. Successful healing and recovery requires more than just treatment and education for the addicted individual. Research and experience tell us that family involvement in recovery is imperative to understand the complexities of addiction. Our intensive three-day Family Program focuses on educating, empowering and supporting families who want to be best prepared to help their loved one be successful in their recovery. Our approach to recovery is action and solution-oriented.
Families come to Hope By The Sea wanting to know how they can “fix” their loved one. Families need to realize that while they are powerless over their loved one’s substance abuse and behavior and cannot change it, they can change themselves. We encourage family members to find a solution for themselves and begin their own recovery. By taking care of ‘self’ they become the best aid in the recovery of both their loved one and themselves.
There are times when the addicted person refuses to participate in any treatment program. Even in this situation, families are encouraged to attend our Family Program to embrace their own healing and recovery needs. It is not unusual for the family to seek help first, and for their loved one to follow.
When addiction is involved, it becomes impossible to maintain a healthy, functioning family system. Family members are affected physically, mentally, emotionally, socially and spiritually. As the destructive progression of the disease progresses, many family members become so focused on their loved one that they lose the ability to take care of themselves.
Physically, you may suffer from stress-related illnesses. You may not be eating well, sleeping well or exercising.
Mentally, you can become obsessed, preoccupied and forgetful. You may have a hard time concentrating because of worrying or racing thoughts. You can also develop mental defenses similar to the addict or alcoholic, such as denial and minimization.
Emotionally, you may be anxious, fearful, depressed, lonely, angry and overwhelmed, but the common way for dealing with these feelings is to bury them. Burying feelings can result in physical problems and overreacting to minor incidents because of a buildup of unresolved tension.
Socially, you might withdraw and become isolated, ceasing to participate in activities and hobbies that were once enjoyable. You can become disconnected from yourself, others and life.
Spiritually, you might find yourself violating your values to protect the addict or alcoholic and over time begin to lose faith, hope and a purpose for living.
The goals of our Family Program are to: